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The J-Man - The Rancho Commons
Note to self: no whining, no slacking
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The J-Man
Josh's teacher is at a loss with how to deal with him. We will probably have him evaluated for ADD/ADHD soon; we've initiated the process with his primary pediatrician. He really can't seem to focus/stay on task in the classroom, even with repeated direct intervention. In fact, he is very smart. He's in the first grade, but knew all of the words on the third grade reading list. He would be attending accelerated classes if he could finish his first grade work.

The other day, the kids who had completed their work were rewarded with the privilege of playing with the Magnetix. This obviously got to Josh, as the teacher said he got very upset. She told him, "All you have to do is complete your work and YOU can play with the Magnetix, too!"

Josh's response was to hide his feelings and reply, "That's okay, I have Magnetix at home."

The boy is sharp. This is a concept I have yet to adequately convey to Evan, who is 11 years old:

Exposed weaknesses get picked on.

For Josh to use that technique on his adult teacher tells me that he will never have trouble with bullies. It also tells me how extremely strong willed he is, but this I already knew.

If you want Josh to accomplish something that he is having difficulty with, the best way is to offer to help. If he continues to struggle with it, then you say, "You might not be able to do it, you better let me do it for you." After that challenge he will either accomplish it by himself or cry in frustration if he can't. I only challenge him like that when I am sure he can accomplish the task.

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curious_corax From: curious_corax Date: December 20th, 2005 07:07 pm (UTC) (Link)
   You have love and you have understanding. You're a good dad and have the tools you need. Those boys are lucky to have you guys.
brknconfidents From: brknconfidents Date: December 20th, 2005 08:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
Awwwww. Wonder where he got that from? *looks around innocently*
mygyzmom From: mygyzmom Date: December 20th, 2005 08:42 pm (UTC) (Link)

don't even pretend to be innocent!

Umhmm! That is a "Sissy~I am too busy~attitude", if I EVER heard one! Fortunately, his teacher has a good sense of humor and a lot of patience! WAAAAAY more than me sometimes, I am afraid!
brknconfidents From: brknconfidents Date: December 20th, 2005 08:47 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: don't even pretend to be innocent!

He will learn. It will not be fun or you or him. He is a very fortunate as was/am I to have parents who cared enough to work with him through ANYTHING.
caramaea From: caramaea Date: December 23rd, 2005 09:04 pm (UTC) (Link)
This one is a particularly sensitive and emotional battle that we've dealt with with each of my step-children. My husband has a hard time with taking it as a personal failing that his children have ADHD and learning disabilities. I hope your son is going to a good school where he will get the attention he needs and deserves. It can be very frustrating for kids with ADHD because they know when something is too hard for them, unlike kids who (for lack of a better word) retarded and are completely oblivious to their own limitations. It's always a good idea to try to bolster his ego and let him do a lot of the things he's good at in his free time as a reward for taking on challenges. Good luck!
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