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The truth will out, it seems... - The Rancho Commons
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The truth will out, it seems...
We have met the enemy, and he is us! --Pogo

This is regarding the previous post about our car being keyed.

After I got off the phone with Allie, and she prepared to load up and come home with the boys, an interesting thing happened. While she was talking to me, we were obviously both quite distraught over the whole thing. Both sides of the car have numerous, long, silvery scrapes all along the side. Evan (11) seeing how upset Allie was and knowing he was under no suspicion for the damage... admitted that he did it!!

(Are you retrieving your jaw from the floor like I did?)

Apparently he rode his scooter around the car, bumping it numerous times without observing the scratches. He knew better, he had just been told not to ride around, nay, even down to where the car was parked. My first response was to calmly tell him the scooter was no longer his and he would never ride it again. I told him that, in my opinion, this was the worst thing that he had ever done and I was very disappointed. I also told him that it was commendable that he had been honest about it, at least.

But later, after talking to Allie and learning that he volunteered the information, I called him back and commended him for telling the truth. I said I was not taking the scooter and wasn't even going to ban him from it because I felt he had already learned the lesson from it. I then commended him again for being honest, for exercising integrity and extraordinary character in telling us what had happened. His money will pay for the repairs, however. Since the scooter handles are aluminum it is possible the scratches aren't deep enough to require repainting and can be buffed out. I haven't had the chance yet to really examine it well in daylight and see.

Allie and I both admitted to each other that we wouldn't have been that honest at that age. I know for a fact I wouldn't have!

Actually, I'm relieved it was my own bookish thug responsible and not a thug I couldn't be sure wouldn't come back and do it again. ;-)

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acey From: acey Date: April 13th, 2006 02:07 am (UTC) (Link)
That's amazing! I probably wouldn't have owned up to it at that age either, even if someone else was getting the blame. You folks handled that so well. And having Evan cough up for the repairs - good idea.
aspiring2live From: aspiring2live Date: April 13th, 2006 05:06 am (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. It was tough not to be angry, but really what I felt was sadness. We really love that car and now it looks like crap until we can fix it.
curious_corax From: curious_corax Date: April 13th, 2006 07:04 am (UTC) (Link)
   I know I would have slunk stealthily away and done homework.
aspiring2live From: aspiring2live Date: April 13th, 2006 11:00 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yes with the slinking!
From: tarheelmom Date: April 13th, 2006 03:58 pm (UTC) (Link)

Evan's Integrity

I am at a loss for words to express my pride in Evan. I cannot say that I know many people--adults or children--who would have been so honest. However, it shows that he trusts his parents to handle the situation in the RIGHT way. He is VERY SPECIAL!!and I love him.
aspiring2live From: aspiring2live Date: April 13th, 2006 11:01 pm (UTC) (Link)

Re: Evan's Integrity

I was blown away. I kept thinking about that watch crystal I broke that I never told you about till I was grown! I have commended him over and over.
schmimi From: schmimi Date: April 15th, 2006 01:39 am (UTC) (Link)
You guys are awesome parents. Obviously.
aspiring2live From: aspiring2live Date: April 18th, 2006 12:17 pm (UTC) (Link)
You are so nice to say that, though probably misdirected! ;-) You know, it's about the trying and my sons knowing that I try. I'm far from the perfect dad, but I make sure to sustain an effort. I'm sure Allie would agree with that.
tinamarie From: tinamarie Date: April 15th, 2006 07:43 pm (UTC) (Link)
Oh wow...That is great Evan told you the truth and I think it's wise you don't take the scooter away from him forever. I think I would have taken it away just until school ended or something like that. Tearza admitted to us the other day that she's been lying to us about finishing her homework so she could watch TV. We told her how proud we are of her for telling us the truth, but she now has to show us her assignment and then show us that she completed it. We told her that even though she told us the truth, since we know she has been lying, we'll have to check her words more closely.

P.S. Can you tell I'm catching up on your journal today. ;)
aspiring2live From: aspiring2live Date: April 18th, 2006 12:18 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yeah, accountability... actions... consequences... trust... We are always reviewing these same concepts with the boys.

This parent stuff is a lot harder than it's cracked up to be!
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