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acey From: acey Date: July 6th, 2008 04:50 pm (UTC) (Link)
I wondered where you'd vanished to, Bruce. I'm sorry about the unraveled relationship with your sis. That often happens when we try to point out things a person doesn't want to admit to or accept, no matter how right they are. Been there, done that myself.

Like mending a piece of shattered china, it's hard to stick it all back together perfectly. Hurts die hard. But sometimes, if you try to reconstruct it, you end up with something else which becomes dear.

And a very belated Happy Birthday to you, kiddo.
aspiring2live From: aspiring2live Date: July 6th, 2008 09:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
In the interest of keeping this post from being 18000 words long, I wasn't very detailed on that period of time before she left. Suffice to say, I wasn't forcing my opinions on her, or being insistent that she listen to me. She wanted ONLY positive reinforcement from me with NO constructive feedback, and I came to a point where I refused to do that.

So... I could have a fragmented, glued up china thing which doesn't really resemble the original piece, but I'll still want to put it on my... mantle? Hmmmmm. I don't know Ang.


Thanks, half way to 90, ugh.
acey From: acey Date: July 6th, 2008 09:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
People are obstinate and stubborn for a multitude of reasons. I know countless people who want only positive reinforcement. It's a life skill, to be able to accept constructive criticism, ya know. :)

It is we who are faced with the choices of saying what they want to hear, being honest, or being silent. We usually make the choice with which we feel most comfortable. And our choices can be misconstrued anyway. Communication is a very tricky thing under many circumstances.

Later we may have the choice of accepting that which we consider second-rate and trying again, or cutting the rope to save ourselves. Either way, we may feel Guilt or Sorrow or even Apathy. And yes, I know you know all this already. ;-)

You have my sympathy and my empathy. In a perfect world, we'd all understand each other and always say/do the right things.

*shrug* I could truly weep over an issue in my own close family. It does not directly involve me. It saddens me to no end. I have chosen not to interfere, as I see one of the consequences will hurt me more permanently. Will I beat myself up later because I stayed out of it? I dunno. I hope not. 'Twas my choice. So it goes.

Eh, 45! Yer still a KID! ;-)
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